For the last five years I’ve played squash every Friday lunchtime. I play the same man at the same time with the same result – I lose. I occasionally win but it’s very rare. One year, I did not win a single match.
People ask me – why do you play if you always lose?
I play because our matches are very competitive. The result feels like it could go either way even though it only ever goes one way.
Last year I asked myself – how do I stop losing?
I concluded that I needed to stop giving away silly points. If I stop giving him points then surely I’d stop losing.
I didn’t. I kept losing. I lost every week until I realized I had asked myself the wrong question. I shouldn’t have asked – how do I stop losing? I should have asked – how do I start winning?
My mentality was wrong. You can can’t win by trying not to lose. You win by trying to win.
So I came up with a plan to start playing with my head, not my hand. Think about where the shot should go. Play shots that will win the point.
Since making the change I’ve won every match.
The more matches I win, the more my opponent has become tetchy and annoyed. He now shouts and yells when his shots go wrong!
What he shouts the most is:
“IT’S NOT A TENNIS BALL!!!!”
This occurs because he plays tennis and sometimes miss-hits volleys because of the different weight of a squash ball compared to a tennis ball.
Despite repeatedly shouting this during matches his volleying is still costing him points.
I could tell him how to fix the problem but I’m quite enjoying my current winning run and don’t want it to end.
So I’ll wait a few weeks and then tell him he needs to change his mentality. He needs to shout
“IT’S A SQUASH BALL!”